From the 100 graduates sent to undergo a month long training in InfoSys, Mysore, 37 of them were offered jobs. Out of which only 9 took up the job with InfoSys and Genpack. This according to me is ridiculous. If they didn’t want to work why did they have to take up the opportunity in the first place?
If it was given to us, I’d have taken up the offer gladly. Since we completed only in June, we missed the opportunity. Are those grads not informed of the possible jobs when they were sent down? Or did they do it just to kill time and add one more certificate to their collection? After this incident, I am sure no Indian company or international for that matter, would want to invest in Bhutan and its human resources. This really will discourage the international companies and as a result would inflict loss on the Bhutanese economy.
I have personally visited InfoSys (Bangalore) and it’s something like a ‘paradise on earth’. They have everything inside. From gym to cafeteria to basketball and volley ball court everything is inside the campus. It’s a vast campus and they have cycles and electric cars to go from place to place. We were taken for a tour inside the campus. It’s such a beautiful working environment with eternal peace, totally cut-off from the buzzing busy traffic of the Bangalore City. We were informed that Mysore InfoSys is much bigger with 500 acres campus. It’s such a shame that our grads are not willing to work in InfoSys.
Another example of this could be the VTI graduates. We always find them complaining about the lack of job opportunities in Bhutan, when in fact they themselves are ashamed of working in what they are trained for. If they are ashamed of blue collar jobs why did they take up in the first place? There maybe others who are not ashamed of labor. Who have the sense of ‘dignity of labor’?
What are our Bhutanese graduates looking for in a job? A rotating chair and a cabin of their own and playing solitare a day long in office? Are we all aware that not every one of us is lucky enough for that? We need to do away with the Bhutanese attitude of always giving orders and not willing to succumb to low paid and manual jobs.
If one isn’t interested let us not take some one else’s opportunity. Who knows what the next person wants?
Saturday, September 12, 2009
Yesterday’s sessions
The two sessions we had yesterday are: “Challenges of youth in pursuit of GNH in globalized world” and “national strategy for corruption-free society”. We had the chief justice, lyonpo Sonam Tobgay and dignitaries for the first session and for the second one, Dasho Neten Zangmo and the officials from ACC. However, dasho Neten had to leave right after her speech because she was summoned to the palace by the royals. Since it was a weekend (Saturday), the labour minister Lyonpo Dorji Wangdi decided to attend too.
I wanted to ask a question of GNH and youth but nothing came up since I am still so new to this concept and as a result I could not ask any. However, I did ask something in the second session on corruption. The following is my question:
The government is doing so many things against corruption. The best example of this could be: The National Assembly parliamentarians refusing DHI’s leather bags on December 22, 2008.
“I will not spare you”, said Lyonchhoen Jigme Y Thinley on corruption. He also said, “Termination is the obvious choice for guilty civil servants”. The termination of seven education officials without any benefits is the best example.
However, the arbitrary transfer of 12 dzongdags and reappointment of 3 as directors in the ministry of home and cultural affairs by the cabinet, and not by the RCSC, throws a serious doubt on the government’s promise of respect for law and transparency.
And also RAA (royal audit authority) reports suggest that, the government is still soft of bureaucrats in corruption. This was contrary to the new government’s policy of ‘zero tolerance’ against corruption.
Lyonchhoen also said, “Constitution is not a stick” and that we should not interpret it too strictly.
By this statement, does it mean the government is not going to abide by the constitution?
The question was answered by some official from the ACC but since it targeted the government, his Excellency, lyonpo Dorji Wangdi was not satisfied so referring to me as ‘that lady’ he supplemented to what the ACC official has said. He said, regarding the transfer of Dzongdags as not corruption but the mandate of the cabinet. He also answered the other parts of the question.
I wanted to ask a question of GNH and youth but nothing came up since I am still so new to this concept and as a result I could not ask any. However, I did ask something in the second session on corruption. The following is my question:
The government is doing so many things against corruption. The best example of this could be: The National Assembly parliamentarians refusing DHI’s leather bags on December 22, 2008.
“I will not spare you”, said Lyonchhoen Jigme Y Thinley on corruption. He also said, “Termination is the obvious choice for guilty civil servants”. The termination of seven education officials without any benefits is the best example.
However, the arbitrary transfer of 12 dzongdags and reappointment of 3 as directors in the ministry of home and cultural affairs by the cabinet, and not by the RCSC, throws a serious doubt on the government’s promise of respect for law and transparency.
And also RAA (royal audit authority) reports suggest that, the government is still soft of bureaucrats in corruption. This was contrary to the new government’s policy of ‘zero tolerance’ against corruption.
Lyonchhoen also said, “Constitution is not a stick” and that we should not interpret it too strictly.
By this statement, does it mean the government is not going to abide by the constitution?
The question was answered by some official from the ACC but since it targeted the government, his Excellency, lyonpo Dorji Wangdi was not satisfied so referring to me as ‘that lady’ he supplemented to what the ACC official has said. He said, regarding the transfer of Dzongdags as not corruption but the mandate of the cabinet. He also answered the other parts of the question.
Thursday, September 10, 2009
Importance of law in democratic society
This morning from 11:00 am – 12:30 pm we had attorney general of Bhutan, Dasho Ugen Chewang and officials from the office of attorney general (OAG), speaking on “importance of laws in democratic society”.
The graduates asked questions on minor rape, freedom of expression, freedom of press etc. I asked a question which pertains to “minor rape”.
Bhutan today have modernized so much and people have opened up their minds and have become so liberal in thinking that we no longer look down upon or objects to couples living together before marriage and divorces etc.
However, we still witness a drastic increase in minor rape cases.
There are according to me, two solutions to this: either re-introduce the corporal punishment (which I believe, was abolished from our legal system), and the second option, could be to legalize prostitution so that the innocent youth/minors need not become the victims of rape.
I have heard and read of cases where a father rapes his own minor daughter, which is indeed a horror for all of us.
What according to you, dasho, is the solution to minimize the cases of minor rapes in Bhutan?
Thank you.
My question was answered by some one from OAG but he did not come up with any solution. He just stressed that minor rapes are serious problem in Bhutan and we do need to keep a check on it.
The graduates asked questions on minor rape, freedom of expression, freedom of press etc. I asked a question which pertains to “minor rape”.
Bhutan today have modernized so much and people have opened up their minds and have become so liberal in thinking that we no longer look down upon or objects to couples living together before marriage and divorces etc.
However, we still witness a drastic increase in minor rape cases.
There are according to me, two solutions to this: either re-introduce the corporal punishment (which I believe, was abolished from our legal system), and the second option, could be to legalize prostitution so that the innocent youth/minors need not become the victims of rape.
I have heard and read of cases where a father rapes his own minor daughter, which is indeed a horror for all of us.
What according to you, dasho, is the solution to minimize the cases of minor rapes in Bhutan?
Thank you.
My question was answered by some one from OAG but he did not come up with any solution. He just stressed that minor rapes are serious problem in Bhutan and we do need to keep a check on it.
Question Hour Session (NGOP)
The question hour session of NGOP is of 160 minutes out of which the first 30 minutes is taken by the focal person introducing his topic. Remaining one hour is given to the graduates to ask their doubts to the concerned officials. There are eight houses in this year’s orientation programme. Each house can ask one question. After all houses have had their chance then if there’s still time remaining, then we go for second round. There are so many people wanting to clarify their doubts and ask their questions and when the answers are so long, many do not get the opportunity to ask their question.
It happened to me twice, yesterday and today. I got up to ask my question but the fellow graduate from the same house was quicker than me so I couldn’t ask my question. For instance, this morning we had guests from the Tourism council of Bhutan (TCB), speaking on “Tourism: high value and low volume”. I wanted to ask the following question:
The government’s desire to minimize adverse effects of tourism, while ensuring a healthy flow of hard currency led to the adoption of the principle of “high value – low volume” tourism. Tourist arrivals into Bhutan are controlled by the government through a pricing policy whereby tourists are required to enter Bhutan only through package tours organized by the registered Bhutanese tour operators.
The daily tariff is $200 (USD) which is quite an amount for average and middle class tourists. The tariff structure has ensured that only travelers with high spending power can visit Bhutan.
By this policy of “high value – low volume” tourism, are we encouraging only rich tourist to visit Bhutan? If Yes, what about those tourist not so rich but still wishes to visit Bhutan?
However, due to shortage of time I couldn’t get he opportunity to ask my question. It can be quite frustrating to be rejected again and again. All my anxieties and anticipation of waiting for my chance was for nothing and in vain.
I just wish the question hour was longer than what we have now.
It happened to me twice, yesterday and today. I got up to ask my question but the fellow graduate from the same house was quicker than me so I couldn’t ask my question. For instance, this morning we had guests from the Tourism council of Bhutan (TCB), speaking on “Tourism: high value and low volume”. I wanted to ask the following question:
The government’s desire to minimize adverse effects of tourism, while ensuring a healthy flow of hard currency led to the adoption of the principle of “high value – low volume” tourism. Tourist arrivals into Bhutan are controlled by the government through a pricing policy whereby tourists are required to enter Bhutan only through package tours organized by the registered Bhutanese tour operators.
The daily tariff is $200 (USD) which is quite an amount for average and middle class tourists. The tariff structure has ensured that only travelers with high spending power can visit Bhutan.
By this policy of “high value – low volume” tourism, are we encouraging only rich tourist to visit Bhutan? If Yes, what about those tourist not so rich but still wishes to visit Bhutan?
However, due to shortage of time I couldn’t get he opportunity to ask my question. It can be quite frustrating to be rejected again and again. All my anxieties and anticipation of waiting for my chance was for nothing and in vain.
I just wish the question hour was longer than what we have now.
Wednesday, September 9, 2009
Orientation isn’t so bad after all..
Penstar is right when he said orientation isn’t so bad. Well I realized that today. Today, unlike the past couple of days, I didn’t sleep a wink. I believe it has got something to do with the focal person.
Well this morning, we had the officials from Ministry of Information and technology (MoIC) along with the secretary, speaking on “the role of ICT and media”. The secretary delivered his lecture very nicely and precisely. I enjoyed the session so much. Later during the Q&A session I wanted to ask a question but missed the opportunity. I had been following on every article on media and had gained some knowledge on it. Hence media has been my favorite topic of discussion.
The question I wanted to ask was:
We all know that media plays a vital role in the democratic Bhutan but Bhutanese media viz. Kuensel and BBS are accused of being too negative by the government. In Bhutan, anything said against anyone or discussed in the forums on internet, are termed as being “too sensitive”. What are the initiatives taken against this and who’s responsible so that people can discuss things in open and perhaps come to a solution which would contribute towards developing Bhutan.
p.s. I did not get to ask the above question. Also it sounds like a stupid question now that I get to re-read it once again so I have no regrets having missed the chance.
This was however amended during the second session. For the second session we had people from the ministry of foreign affairs (MoFA) presided by its secretary. The topic of discussion was “Bhutan’s diplomacy, international relations and global identity”. There were many officials accompanying the secretary. The graduates were first briefed on the topic which was followed by a Q&A session. I got back my missed opportunity here. The question I asked was:
Bhutan in the 1900s has signed the Indo-Bhutan treaty with the British-India. One of its clauses was, “India would not interfere in the national interest of Bhutan”. This was however reviewed and amended under the leadership of the 5th king Jigme Kheser. In 2007 Indo-Bhutan treaty was amended. The above said clause was changed to: “Bhutan and India will corporate and help each other with the matters concerning the national interest”.
Well this is not the exact words of the clause but my interpretation of it. In this regard, my question is, if India interferes in the domestic affairs of Bhutan, and then there are chances that India may consider Bhutan as one of its many states. We all know India is Bhutan’s largest developing partner but are we overlooking that fact that India can prove a threat to the security and sovereignty of Bhutan? With the citizens of Bhutan fearing that this may happen in the near future will Bhutan be able to achieve his Majesty’s vision of vibrant democracy?
My question was answered by one of the officials. He was very precise in answering and I liked what I heard. He said he’s happy that we are concerned about the security of the country but was advised not to worry at all. He said Bhutan and India have reached to such a level of relation that trust is an established factor and that India would not harm Bhutan.
Later today, we had officials from Dzongkha Development committee speaking on “importance of Dzongkha Language”. Only the monks and ILCS (Institute of Language and cultural studies) graduates asked questions pertaining to the Dzongkha language and how it’s declining in Bhutan, what are the measures taken by the committee to improve the national language etc etc etc..
Well this morning, we had the officials from Ministry of Information and technology (MoIC) along with the secretary, speaking on “the role of ICT and media”. The secretary delivered his lecture very nicely and precisely. I enjoyed the session so much. Later during the Q&A session I wanted to ask a question but missed the opportunity. I had been following on every article on media and had gained some knowledge on it. Hence media has been my favorite topic of discussion.
The question I wanted to ask was:
We all know that media plays a vital role in the democratic Bhutan but Bhutanese media viz. Kuensel and BBS are accused of being too negative by the government. In Bhutan, anything said against anyone or discussed in the forums on internet, are termed as being “too sensitive”. What are the initiatives taken against this and who’s responsible so that people can discuss things in open and perhaps come to a solution which would contribute towards developing Bhutan.
p.s. I did not get to ask the above question. Also it sounds like a stupid question now that I get to re-read it once again so I have no regrets having missed the chance.
This was however amended during the second session. For the second session we had people from the ministry of foreign affairs (MoFA) presided by its secretary. The topic of discussion was “Bhutan’s diplomacy, international relations and global identity”. There were many officials accompanying the secretary. The graduates were first briefed on the topic which was followed by a Q&A session. I got back my missed opportunity here. The question I asked was:
Bhutan in the 1900s has signed the Indo-Bhutan treaty with the British-India. One of its clauses was, “India would not interfere in the national interest of Bhutan”. This was however reviewed and amended under the leadership of the 5th king Jigme Kheser. In 2007 Indo-Bhutan treaty was amended. The above said clause was changed to: “Bhutan and India will corporate and help each other with the matters concerning the national interest”.
Well this is not the exact words of the clause but my interpretation of it. In this regard, my question is, if India interferes in the domestic affairs of Bhutan, and then there are chances that India may consider Bhutan as one of its many states. We all know India is Bhutan’s largest developing partner but are we overlooking that fact that India can prove a threat to the security and sovereignty of Bhutan? With the citizens of Bhutan fearing that this may happen in the near future will Bhutan be able to achieve his Majesty’s vision of vibrant democracy?
My question was answered by one of the officials. He was very precise in answering and I liked what I heard. He said he’s happy that we are concerned about the security of the country but was advised not to worry at all. He said Bhutan and India have reached to such a level of relation that trust is an established factor and that India would not harm Bhutan.
Later today, we had officials from Dzongkha Development committee speaking on “importance of Dzongkha Language”. Only the monks and ILCS (Institute of Language and cultural studies) graduates asked questions pertaining to the Dzongkha language and how it’s declining in Bhutan, what are the measures taken by the committee to improve the national language etc etc etc..
Tuesday, September 8, 2009
is graduate orientation necessary?
It’s been only two days into the orientation and I am dead tired. I think I won’t last through out the programme. It’d kill me before the week is out. The whole thing is very boring for me. I fail to comprehend how the other graduates are finding it interesting and useful.
For having registered at the last moment, I am placed at the back and corner of the hall. Forget about seeing any guests, I can hardly hear anything being said by the officials. I envy my friend for having bagged the front row right in front of the guests and officials, which makes me regret my decision to register for the orientation programme at last.
We had so many guests coming and gracing the occasion. There are among the most eminent persons in the country viz. ministers, secretaries, directors etc. it’s an honor to be listening to them though I could hardly hear anything they said. I was more of sleeping than I ever listened. My house (Cheli la), was placed on the extreme left of the enormous hall and I was placed at the back of the extreme left. I had to stretch my neck so much just to see who’s speaking. After a couple of hours of stretching my neck I gave up and hence I fell asleep and as a result I didn’t hear anything. As soon as I reached home I go to bed to give some rest to my tired limbs. I get up next morning to repeat the whole procedure of the day before.
Well it’s a good thing to wear beautiful clothes and jewellery and feel beautiful. Everybody looks their best and I can’t help admiring the beautiful ladies out there. Almost every woman looks stunning and you can’t decide who is prettier than whom. John Keats was right when he said, “A thing of beauty is joy forever”.
For having registered at the last moment, I am placed at the back and corner of the hall. Forget about seeing any guests, I can hardly hear anything being said by the officials. I envy my friend for having bagged the front row right in front of the guests and officials, which makes me regret my decision to register for the orientation programme at last.
We had so many guests coming and gracing the occasion. There are among the most eminent persons in the country viz. ministers, secretaries, directors etc. it’s an honor to be listening to them though I could hardly hear anything they said. I was more of sleeping than I ever listened. My house (Cheli la), was placed on the extreme left of the enormous hall and I was placed at the back of the extreme left. I had to stretch my neck so much just to see who’s speaking. After a couple of hours of stretching my neck I gave up and hence I fell asleep and as a result I didn’t hear anything. As soon as I reached home I go to bed to give some rest to my tired limbs. I get up next morning to repeat the whole procedure of the day before.
Well it’s a good thing to wear beautiful clothes and jewellery and feel beautiful. Everybody looks their best and I can’t help admiring the beautiful ladies out there. Almost every woman looks stunning and you can’t decide who is prettier than whom. John Keats was right when he said, “A thing of beauty is joy forever”.
Saturday, September 5, 2009
Graduate Orientation 2009
The upcoming National Graduate Orientation Programme (NGOP) has been a trauma for me for ever since I could recall. Well there are so many things to consider. For instance, how to dress up, how will be the people, whether I will be able to get the same house as my friends, what if I were separated from my friends, will I get new friends then, how will be the new friends, will we have something in common, and blah blah blah..
I heard many people saying they are so excited about the program and they are looking forward to meeting new friends (boy friends/ girl friends even). They are waiting to show case themselves. It’s a great event of course. I have heard from the seniors that apart from meeting friends and getting yourself acquainted with new people, there are also many great personalities like ministers coming to grace the occasion and let the graduates be informed of the respective ministries. It’s also an indirect preparation for the upcoming RCSC exams after the orientation.
Well I am supposed to be excited about this but I am not. I am not looking forward to the orientation whatsoever. In fact, I am anxious about the whole thing. I don’t know why but there’s some tight knot in my stomach which refuses to go away. I just can’t point out what’s my fear. I know I have no problem but why am I so anxious about this whole thing? Well I guess I have crowd phobia. I have never considered myself a coward still I don’t know why I am so restless. I guess only time can tell.
I heard many people saying they are so excited about the program and they are looking forward to meeting new friends (boy friends/ girl friends even). They are waiting to show case themselves. It’s a great event of course. I have heard from the seniors that apart from meeting friends and getting yourself acquainted with new people, there are also many great personalities like ministers coming to grace the occasion and let the graduates be informed of the respective ministries. It’s also an indirect preparation for the upcoming RCSC exams after the orientation.
Well I am supposed to be excited about this but I am not. I am not looking forward to the orientation whatsoever. In fact, I am anxious about the whole thing. I don’t know why but there’s some tight knot in my stomach which refuses to go away. I just can’t point out what’s my fear. I know I have no problem but why am I so anxious about this whole thing? Well I guess I have crowd phobia. I have never considered myself a coward still I don’t know why I am so restless. I guess only time can tell.
Thursday, September 3, 2009
Tell me about yourself?
If you have attended any interviews, you must have encountered this question. It has been asked so often yet we fail to answer this question. We fail because there are not many things we can blabber about ourselves. Well, having said that, I have come across this question in the interviews too yet I could not satisfactorily answer this question because there’s nothing significant to talk about myself.
In college, we were made to attend seminars, workshops etc to improve our interview skills. They gave guidelines of how to go about interviews. Your manners, behaviors, dress code and every ethics play a vital role in the interview. My teachers used to say, “An interview is a formal meeting where you sell yourself to the highest bidder.” Some says, Bhutanese people by nature, make ourselves so humble that we would not tell every assets of ours to the interviewer but interview is not the time to make yourself humble instead you should boast of your every asset. You have to show the interviewer what are made of.
Well I guess I got little diverted so let me come to the point. In the following line I’d be writing about the answer to the above question. If I were asked to tell about myself, this is what I am going to tell them. Well before I begin, I have heard that when you are talking about yourself, you should always begin with the recent event and trace back in time to where you started it all.
Well here it goes…my name is Payday and I hail from Paro. I have a degree in computer applications (BCA) with good ranking. Before that, I did a diploma in IT. I did my school in my native only. Well I may not be very intelligent but I am a hard working person, very particular and very organized. When I do anything I believe in doing it well. I am a very neat person and I want everything about me in a proper place. My hobbies are reading novels (esp romantic ones), watching TV and writing stories. I have the habit of making a “to do” list every day and at the end of the day I mark (tick) all things I could accomplish that day and that can make me happy so I can say little things make me happy. I am very punctual by nature. Time management is one of my virtues. I believe in doing things on time.
Readers, please advice me how to go about answering this question. Please comment on what I have written above. They might ask me that question for VIVA.
In college, we were made to attend seminars, workshops etc to improve our interview skills. They gave guidelines of how to go about interviews. Your manners, behaviors, dress code and every ethics play a vital role in the interview. My teachers used to say, “An interview is a formal meeting where you sell yourself to the highest bidder.” Some says, Bhutanese people by nature, make ourselves so humble that we would not tell every assets of ours to the interviewer but interview is not the time to make yourself humble instead you should boast of your every asset. You have to show the interviewer what are made of.
Well I guess I got little diverted so let me come to the point. In the following line I’d be writing about the answer to the above question. If I were asked to tell about myself, this is what I am going to tell them. Well before I begin, I have heard that when you are talking about yourself, you should always begin with the recent event and trace back in time to where you started it all.
Well here it goes…my name is Payday and I hail from Paro. I have a degree in computer applications (BCA) with good ranking. Before that, I did a diploma in IT. I did my school in my native only. Well I may not be very intelligent but I am a hard working person, very particular and very organized. When I do anything I believe in doing it well. I am a very neat person and I want everything about me in a proper place. My hobbies are reading novels (esp romantic ones), watching TV and writing stories. I have the habit of making a “to do” list every day and at the end of the day I mark (tick) all things I could accomplish that day and that can make me happy so I can say little things make me happy. I am very punctual by nature. Time management is one of my virtues. I believe in doing things on time.
Readers, please advice me how to go about answering this question. Please comment on what I have written above. They might ask me that question for VIVA.
A love lost
It seems ages ago as I recalled the lonely days of ’97 when I spotted him for the first time. It is the same old face, same old person but why do I still yearn for him now? Why?
The year was 1997 and I was in my seventh grade then. It was our first assembly when I noticed him. Was it a love at first sight? Why he had to look so different from all other guys, I wondered. Oh! The look in his brown eyes, so cool and composed, so sure of himself. In his presence, the other guys were reduced to nothing. It was as if he’s the lone man on earth. Again the way he walked, the way he avoided people on his way. Why did he have to appear so different from others? Or was it in the eyes of mine only?
Fortunately for me, we happened to be in the same class. With the passage of time I befriended him and we became good friends but friendship was not what I was looking for. I was way beyond friendship but he never once realized my feelings. For him I was just another girl and treated me cordially. But I mistook his friendship for something more and misguided myself. He failed to notice the way I looked at him quite different from the way I looked at other guys. I, in my own little ways, tried to show him my feelings but in vain.
One day while we were doing our assignment I found him with the new girl (let’s call her Ms abc), who has joined the class day before. She was a pretty, attractive girl but I did not find so because I was so blinded by jealousy to notice it. Seeing the two of them together was an unpleasant sight for me. I hated to see them together everyday but it wasn’t in my power to separate them.
Now he completely avoided me. For all he cared, I no longer existed. He had the eyes only for Ms abc. The rest of the world mattered not to him. Damn it! Why did he have to be so blind, not to have noticed my feelings, I used to think. But all was futile. He’s lost and I was devastated. Attending classes have become a sheer compulsion for me because I lost the will to live.
Well one day, I was sitting in the corner of the class when he approached me.
“Ugen, I’ve something to tell you,” he said. My heart was thumping against my ribs. I was full of anxieties. I eagerly waited for the words I longed to hear forever.
“I love..uhh..” he paused..
“You love whom?” I asked but I was certain he was going to say me because why would he have come to me otherwise to say so. But to my utter disappointment, his next words were, “I love Ms abc” he meant the new girl. I was dumb struck. I opened my mouth to say something but words were struck in my throat and refused to come out so I closed my mouth. Somehow my silence disturbed him because his next words confirmed it.
“Come on, don’t you think she’s the right girl for me? You are my best friend, I thought at least you can be happy for me” he said. I didn’t say anything still because I couldn’t trust me voice. My eyes were blinded with unshed tears I had to hold my tears by pretending to gaze at the empty sky. He just stood up and went and left me with a broken heart to heal.
We did not talk to each other since but I didn’t mind. I know I lost a friend but damn friendship to hell. I didn’t care for friendship from him, I yearned for more and he wasn’t willing to give more. Later that way, alone in the vicinity of my room, I questioned myself, “am I the right person to answer his questions? Why did he have to rub salt to my wound?” He was torturing my already tortured heart.
After the incident, we were merely strangers. He had come to know my feelings afterwards but he never bothered. A plain, simple girl could be of no use to him and like a ‘rat deserting a sinking ship’; he left me for a ‘greener pasture’.
Five months later, the stunning gorgeous Ms abc was pregnant. She might have been everything but smart. The couple was rumored to be constantly into fights. Each blaming the other for their careless action and Ms abc was believed to have been constantly in tears.
One day he came to me again. This time to seek my advice I backed away again this time too. How could a ‘plain Jane’ be of any help to ‘Mr Perfect’? But that wasn’t entirely the reason. I was tongue-tied because I didn’t know what to say. What could I have possibly said? Then, the duo was expelled from the school and that was the last I have seen or heard of them.
Now as I peeped through the window, I can picture him in my mind’s eye, the way his brown eyes held my stare on that fateful day. Alas! The last and final look when he came for my help. I wish I could turn back the clock and go back in the past but it was a decade ago and everything seems so blur and vague.
Wednesday, September 2, 2009
Career pill
I was going through the kuensel the other day and happened to have come across an article called “waiting to long to conceive” where many women have expressed their agony of not being able to conceive because they waited too long. Every woman aspires to be independent and successful and for that they need a career. These women who are very career oriented get no time to settle down and start a family quite late in their lives.
Every woman desires a successful career and also a happy family, but killing two birds with one stone is not an easy stuff for many. Bringing up children is no joke; woman needs to become a fulltime mother, which requires her to give up her career in some cases. It’s a choice between a career and motherhood and in the west we see most women opting for career rather than marriage and children, thereby they end up marrying late and not being able to conceive.
But either way we are at loss. Supposing you give up your career and dedicate your life to bringing up your children and cooking for your husband, then you have nothing of your own. You become dependent on your husband for everything and incase he leaves you; you will end up having nothing of our own. On the other hand, you choose career and establish yourself as a successful person. You might have a good independent life initially but eventually you will grow old all by yourself. So that way there’s an imbalance in life.
At such times we wish if we could compartmentalize our life. For instance, you allot first 20 years of your life to education, then from 20 – 30 for career and after 30 once you have established yourself as someone then you settle down, start a family. That way you are well organized and prepared to face life and challenges. This is although feasible but not practical because a woman scientifically becomes less fertile as her age advances. Once she crossed 35, her chances of conceiving are very slim. So many couples resolved to adopting, which is the second best option. But is it worth it? You work hard all your life: earn and save only to hand over everything to some children you have not mothered?
The whole thing becomes so complicated. If only we have allotted time for everything in life. If only life is more organized, then it would be much simpler. It’s all about management. It’s all about how you can manage your life. But how many women can have a great career as well as become a good mother? Not many definitely.
Well the article says now, scientists have come up with some pill called the “career pill” which, “would shutdown our ovaries during years we aren’t ready to conceive, and allow them to begin functioning again once we are ready”. Isn’t it exciting?
If this pill really comes alive then women need not worry of late marriage. There’s no need to panic because you can give birth only when you are ready and not any sooner. It’s a good news and relief to all women over the world. This pill is here to stay….
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